Kids and the Holidays

Supporting Mental Well-Being for the Whole Family 

The holiday season often brings joy, excitement, and cherished traditions—but it can also create stress for kids and parents alike. Between packed schedules, family expectations, and financial pressures, mental health can easily take a back seat. Here’s how you can support your child’s emotional well-being during the holidays—and why your own mental wellness matters just as much. 

1. Recognize the Pressure Kids Feel 

Children may experience stress during the holidays for reasons adults overlook: 

• Changes in routine: School breaks disrupt structure, which can feel unsettling. 

• Social expectations: Family gatherings can be overwhelming for shy or anxious kids. 

• Academic stress: Some kids worry about unfinished schoolwork or upcoming exams. 

Signs of stress in kids might include irritability, withdrawal, changes in sleep, or physical complaints like headaches or stomachaches. 

2. Create Predictability 

Kids thrive on routine. While holidays often mean flexibility, try to maintain: 

• Regular meal and sleep schedules 

• Quiet downtime between events 

• Clear expectations about plans and transitions 

Predictability helps children feel safe and reduces anxiety. 

3. Encourage Open Conversations 

Ask your child how they feel about upcoming events. Questions like: 

• “What part of the holidays are you most excited about?” 

• “Is there anything that makes you nervous or stressed?” Listening without judgment helps kids feel heard and supported. 

4. Model Healthy Coping 

Your mental health sets the tone for the household. If you’re overwhelmed, kids notice. Practice: 

• Self-care: Take breaks, eat well, and get enough sleep. 

• Stress management: Use calming techniques like deep breathing or short walks. 

• Boundaries: It’s okay to say no to extra commitments. 

When parents manage stress well, kids learn resilience by example. 

5. Focus on Connection, Not Perfection 

The holidays don’t have to be flawless. What matters most is creating moments of connection: 

• Play a game together 

• Share a favorite holiday memory 

• Cook a simple meal as a family 

These small acts build emotional security and positive memories. 

6. Seek Support When Needed 

If your child shows persistent signs of anxiety or depression, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. Early intervention can make a big difference. 

Bottom Line: Supporting your child’s mental health during the holidays starts with supporting your own. A calm, balanced parent creates a safe and joyful environment for the entire family. 

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Lisa Haberbusch

About the Author

Lisa Haberbusch, LISW-S

Encompass Regional Director

Lisa is the Regional Director for the Wooster, Ashland and Mansfield Encompass locations. Lisa received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Human Services from The George Washington University. She then obtained a Master of Social Work degree from The University of Michigan. Lisa has over 20 years of experience working in the field of Mental Health.